The Mindful Awareness concepts, which promote desensitization results from GE are...
The Impartial Observer
Experience the anxiety. DON'T attempt to distract from it or block it in any way. FEEL it, embrace it.
CHALLENGE your bullshit fearful thoughts, dispute them*.
*That's only possible IF the meanings and values you've assigned to your paruretic symptoms are bullshit.
For virtually all of us, our fears are 100% valid...till we realize they are 100% bullshit.
So obviously, that's a critical part of the recovery process.
For as long as your paruretic fears are valid...you'll remain paruretic, and you should.
For example, if your paruresis means you're less of a man, or pitiful, or somehow lacking...then of course you should keep the secret at any cost, who wouldn't?
On the other hand, if you come to realize (as I did) that your paruretic fears and beliefs about what it "says about you" are bullshit that ate nearly your entire fucking life unnecessarily...you're primed to benefit from GE using Mindful Awareness.
The other qualifier IMO for benefiting from GE with Mindful Awareness...is making a decision on what's MORE important to you.
Is your secret more important than your freedom?
As a wise man once said...
You can have your secret, or you can have your freedom...but you can't have both.
- Carl Robbins, Co-Founder IPA.
Okay, I'm in babble mode...links will (hopefully) be in the post which follows.
I'm trying to keep the discrete components in separate posts, please bear with me.
You can't successfully tease a person about something they don't feel embarrassed about.
I can pee...because it's okay if I can't.
The problem is embarrassment, all else is rooted in your embarrassment.